”The wisdom and compassion a woman can intuitively experience in childbirth can make her a source of healing and understanding for other women.”
A magical, empowering and quick home birth
Hi Sofie, hope you're well. Garrett and I are both loving our new roles and getting to know little Cassian. I have written down our birth story and wanted to share it with you. Happy for it to be shared publicly if helpful for others as we can't rate you and hypnobirthing enough!
The magical birth of our beautiful son, Cassian in a birthing pool at home. It was the Easter weekend and I was 38 weeks on Easter Sunday and feeling the full effects as expected at the end of pregnancy. Remaining positive and keeping in mind everything that my partner and I had learned from Sofie's Hypnobirthing course, we decided to spend time relaxing together as a couple as my intuition had been telling me that baby was coming early. On that particular weekend, we went on long, gentle walks followed by dinner, mocktails and a flotation pool session.
On Tuesday morning at 04:30am my waters began breaking slowly. I contacted the midwives around 07:30am, who visited us at home mid-morning and confirmed without invasive intervention that the waters had broken. The Midwife booked me in for an induction for 9am Wednesday in case I didn't go into spontaneous labour, but she made it clear that it was my decision and I did not have to be induced. Upon presenting the areas of discomfort I was currently experiencing, the Midwife created a specific aromatherapy blend for me to either diffuse or massage to encourage spontaneous labour and relieve discomfort.
At about 13:00, my partner and I went for a walk, got some lunch and returned home. Gentle period like cramps started about 2pm and I began using the 'up breathing' and visualisation techniques while trying out different positions and massage. Meanwhile, Garrett (my partner) was busy assembling the pool, waterproofing the floor and sofa, putting on his 'out of office message and contacting the Midwife to give them the heads up that induction was not necessary! During early labour, I watched both Paddington Bear films and had a warm shower to relax.
The surges had intensified by about 6:30pm and Garrett managed to prise himself away from me to call the Midwife to come to visit. The Midwife observed me for approximately 20 minutes and advised Garrett that I was still in early labour, to monitor my progress over the following two hours and then call triage if labour progressed. At this point I felt a strong urge that I needed someone with me at all times, as I had started to go 'inward' and became very quiet for the rest of the labour, only speaking in response to questions. At 21:00, the Midwife arrived, and Garrett directed her to our birth plan stuck to the living room door and quickly corrected her to use the words 'pressure' instead of pain and 'surge' instead of contraction. I had all the discomfort in my lower back, but I found it too uncomfortable for the Midwife to check baby's position. I knew the Midwife was thinking that baby was back-to-back, but I could feel him moving and knew instinctively that he wasn't.
At 21:30, I consented to an internal examination but asked for Garrett to be told how far gone I was as I didn't want this to block me mentally. Garrett was told that I was 'only' 3cm and that she will observe the baby and me every 15 minutes for the next hour before deciding whether to stay or leave as the first baby usually has long active labours. As the surges intensified, the Midwife suggested I get into the pool to relax as I was exhausted. In between surges, I managed to get into the pool, and it was heavenly whereby I instantly felt relief. Shortly after getting into the pool, I felt a bubble of pressure and my waters fully broke. I started to feel an uncontrollable urge to bear down and once again consented to being examined. I remember the shocked expression from the Midwife, who exclaimed: "you're 9cm!" The Midwife told me to "accept the pressure and breathe through it” which helped me enormously and I began focusing on 'down breathing', particularly the opening of a pink rose.
Meanwhile, the Midwife quickly ran to call the second Midwife and unlocked the front door to allow quick and easy access. Garrett remembers me falling asleep while hanging over the edge of the pool and thinking "she's in transition". Suddenly, I could feel my son making his swift entrance to the world and was aware that the Midwife wasn’t ready and I declared, "he's coming!" As the living room had low lighting, Garrett grabbed a torch and once again, I astounded the Midwife as she could see my son's head crowning slowly, then retracting and then crowning again. I was solely focused on breathing him out slowly, ignoring pleas to pant, which I knew would make me hyperventilate. Garrett was able to witness his fist, followed by his head being born. I declined to touch his head as I just needed to remain inward and focused. The next surge came, and I lifted my son out of the water and into my arms. He was very calm; no tears and he immediately opened his eyes to look at me. We had done it. All of us. Active labour was just over 2.5 hours and the second Midwife hadn't arrived in time for the birth of our son.
Garrett had remained calm, knowledgeable and in control throughout the whole labour. This encouraged me to do the same and I constantly reminded myself that my body and baby will know what to do. I knew that my job was to stay relaxed and calm. Garrett and I both feel so strongly that hypnobirthing gave us the knowledge and skills to have a gentle birth. We had practised the techniques taught by Sofie every day, which gave us the power and strength to question interventions, be explicit in our wishes and remain positive, focused on our intended birth throughout the pregnancy. Sofie demonstrated genuine care and compassion by responding quickly to messages and offering advice during and after completing the course. This was invaluable as at about 36 weeks, my Midwife began trying to encourage me to have a hospital birth because I was measuring large. I can't recommend Sofie's course enough and have encouraged all of my friends to use hypnobirthing and consider a home birth. The most powerful, intense and rewarding experience of my life. Cassian Dax Murphy 8lb 2oz is born at 23:44.
Thank you for guiding us to the most positive, empowering birth we could have wished for. Best wishes, Charlotte, Garrett & Cassian xxx
A beautiful water birth in our living room...
We did it! A home water birth, drug free and it all happened fairly quickly. She is amazing! What an experience! Tougher than I thought it would be but we got there. It was a beautiful water birth in our living room – very intense but the hypnobirthing definitely helped. The moment I held her for the first time was just indescribable.
She looked up at me and was so calm ad she went for my breast soon after. My milk came in last night and it’s all going so well. She’s such a chilled baby! I never thought I could feel this way Sofie!!
Thank you for all you taught us and your endless support.
Rosy, Mummy to Pearl
They couldn't believe how calm I was!
Our son Rocco was born on Sunday and despite some complications towards the end that led to a transfer it was still an amazing and empowering experience. I was only on gas and air towards the end at home. I used aromatherapy and obviously hypnobirthing techniques.
I don’t remember any pain. All the midwifes and doctors couldn’t believe how calm I was. I was even bossing Orson around when we were getting in the ambulance (if he has my phone, money etc) 😆
We had a cover at the restaurant on Saturday (the busiest day for us!), the very first time Orson wasn’t there for a service! But it went very well.
We are settling at home, Rocco is amazing and I’m so happy and grateful.
Thank you so much for everything! I feel I really benefited from the hypnobirthing course we did with you.
I’m so proud of myself!
Linda, Mummy to Rocco
Planned c-section for breech baby, however labour starts spontaneously leading to a 'natural' c-section...
Hi Sofie! I wanted to just let you know how amazing and how much Hypnobirthing helped us throughout the whole pregnancy, including the birth of our son and beyond. Even though I didn’t have the natural birth we wanted I found what I learnt in our Hypnobirthing session helpful throughout the whole experience and I look back now and think how could I have dealt with what we went through without it.
At 38 weeks pregnant Bob and I were walking around town when we went in to Holland and Barrett to get the Arnica tablets (which you had recommended) ready for my C-Section that was booked for 5 days time. I had a little pain so I stood and swayed my hips from side to side while breathing through it, using the golden thread breathing technique and thinking of my visualisation (butterflies flying up to the sky). The discomfort didn’t last long so I didn’t think it could be a surge. The lady at the till said “you are not going in to labour now are you?” I laughed and said no. The surge didn’t come again for another 10 minutes, I had to sit down and again breathed through it. A lovely lady walked past and said laughing, “you are not going in to labour here are you?” I laughed back and said no! Again thinking this couldn’t be a contraction as there is no pattern to them.
We got home an hour later and I went to bed and slept for 3 hours. I woke up and went to the loo and my waters broke – yes it was totally like the movies, it went everywhere and there was LOTS of it! I was so happy that I experienced it because after being told I had to have a c-section due to the breech position, I thought I wouldn’t ever get to feel it. I had said to my hubby, all I want is for the surges to start early to put the Hypnobirthing in to practice before my C-section, I would be gutted if didn’t feel anything. We called the hospital and they said no rush to come in if you aren’t having contractions, we will prob do the C-section tonight or tomorrow morning, depending on when your contractions come on. I went to run a bath and said to my hubby I have an instinct I have to go in now!
We got a lift in and when we got to the hospital I had what I thought might have been a surge that again I breathed through. When I said to the midwife “I think it might be a contraction” she politely laughed and said no it’s prob not if you are not in that much pain and they aren’t coming in waves. The obstetric came to see me and said they would do the op tonight or tomorrow as I wasn't having any contractions. The obstetric then examined me and looked shocked and a little concerned and said to the other doctor, I can feel a foot, she then turned to me and said “right you are 7cm and there is a foot coming down so I will see you in theatre soon; do you have any questions for me?”. This is when I remember everything we had discussed and said to her my birthplan i.e. want to hold baby straight away, I want skin to skin, no vitamin k and I want a picture of baby as soon as he is born, fortunately she agreed to all of these. I really feel If I hadn’t had done Hypnobirthing I wouldn’t have felt confident enough to give my requirements/wants in such a rushed and overwhelming situation.
The midwife asked if I needed a wheel chair to theatre but I said no I can walk. I walked to theatre, all the midwives looked so shocked that at 7cm I could walk to the theatre with no pain! I kept breathing to calm my nerves and fears and kept doing the visualisations of my butterflies. They then performed the procedure and our son was born. They kept their promise and I got to do my birth-plan wishes with skin to skin etc. Our son was born 1.5 hours after my waters broke and I would say around 6 hours from, which I now know, was my first surge.
After the birth we were taken to a private room where there was a lot going on for the next 3 days which I used my Hypnobirthing skills to get through! I used the Hypnobirthing cd and my birthing songs (the songs we used practicing the Hypnobirthing every night) to create a calm and relaxing environment to meditate. I felt so much better and I was able to sleep for an hour and my anxiety reduced dramatically. I used the Hypnobirthing cd and birth songs for when we got home too. I was sleep deprived and my anxiety heightened again so I used the cd and songs to help me relax, to a point I could sleep for an hour or so between breastfeeding.
I want to just say thank you so much. We both enjoyed our sessions and the bonding my hubby and I had together through the whole experience, while practicing up to the birth. I really believe that I would not have coped as well as I did with the Emergency csection and the pains, without the knowledge what we learnt from our Hypnobirthing session.
We definitely felt more prepared and knowledge about the whole experience. You was so friendly, you always answered our questions and made us feel confident and prepared.
People always used to say to me I was crazy when I said I was “excited to give birth!”
You also gave me and my husband the tools and confidence to use BRAIN (a questioning technique).
One of the best things was, I believe that it helped with my son knowing his daddy’s voice (from all the practicing of the scripts every night!!) – as soon as he was born he turned to my husbands voice from the other side of the room whenever he heard him talk. This really warmed my heart.
Thanks Sofie, I feel empowered and can honestly say even though the birth didn’t go how we had planned I loved every minute of it and would def do it again.
Hannah, Mummy to Lincoln
Home birth in water...
I know how sweet it was when we heard from people who had given birth after their courses with you so thought we would add my perspective as a dad to the mix! Kate gave birth to our beautiful new arrival Aoife on Monday morning. Despite being warned to ignore our due date, it had come and gone by a week and I think we were beginning to worry as we were getting booked in to go for scans at hospital amid mild concerns about baby’s size and we thought that home birth would no longer be an option. I called you and you reminded me if baby healthy, and mummy healthy, there’s no reason for us to not be at home and that we just need to relax... I cooked Kate a rice dice with enough chillis in it to take her face off, and within ten minutes Kate was convinced she was feeling surges so we got her into the bath and then things REALLY started moving!
As we expected, we called our midwife who said it sounded very early, surges were too far apart and to call back when surges were closer together. I honestly don’t think 45 mins passed before Kate’s ‘rest’ periods went from 10-15 minutes to 3 or 4. I think this did unsettle Kate slightly and started to worry her as we still had no ‘bloody show’ or waters breaking and all of a sudden things just taking off!
Midwife comes over and agrees things seem to be moving quickly and says she always has to second guess hypnobirthers as they always take her by surprise! Kate sat in the tub and I whispered to her constantly in her surges, reminding her of her up visualisation and reminding her of nice places and good memories to take her mind away from the discomfort. We agree to a check for dilation just for the midwife to know where she is at as there was another home birth kicking off simultaneously, but we opted not to know the number so we didn’t know how far through she was.
One thing I will say.. with my presence and hypnobirthing techniques really helping Kate calm down through these quickening surges. It became a bit of a ‘situation’ where Kate now really needed me with her for every surge..but meanwhile our Pool-In-A-Box pool is still sat half inflated and empty in the living room (Kate didn’t want it inflated and ready to go in the weeks before labour as it ruined the Chi of living room and a constant reminder of what’s to come) I left Kate with our fantastic midwife who adopted the hypnobirthing techniques and spoke to Kate calmly and softly through her next few surges while I set up the pool. I am SO glad I spent the time and money doing a full test run inflating and buying a spare liner as I managed to work on turbo speed getting that thing up!
Jazz record on, infuser making room smell of lavender, low lights on, Kate musters all her strength in a rest moment to waddle from the bath to the pool which I think she will describe as the best feeling she’s ever had. Kate did start to panic slightly through transition so we eventually opted for some gas and air for the final stages, the irony being that the canister ran out and whilst they were going to replace it Kate had found the technique and managed to breathe our little girl out without it! The reminder of her J breathing and loosening her jaw for cow noises really really helped both improve the technique and limit her anxiety.
We are absolutely thrilled! I am so so glad we did the course with you, knowing what we were going into and having the weeks of practice on staying calm and most importantly thinking positively and reminding Kate that she was in control and that this was a natural, healthy process not to be feared.. it all meant we had the beautiful home birth that Kate dreamed of. If we opted for home birth without hypnobirthing I think we both agree we would have been so much less prepared and more likely to panic and go to hospital. I can’t lie and say the 8 hours of labour were a constant hypnobirthing picture of calm serene breathing like some of the videos we watched, but I think the self belief and lack of anxiety in the build-up to labour is what really benefitted us.
Kate was absolutely incredible and I am still in awe of what she achieved!! Thank you so much once again!
Seán, Daddy to Aoife
Hypnobirthing made us both feel more in control...
It was only when me and my wife reflected a couple of days after the arrival of our first baby boy, did we really begin to measure the impact of hypnobirthing. My wife turned to me said ‘imagine if we didn’t do hypnobirthing!?’ We both agreed that it would have been a very different challenge and a whole lot less manageable event. My wife, autonomously of myself, organised to have a private course. I was pretty nonplussed about hypnobirthing at the start, but certainly the apprehension towards an inevitable occasion which was now under 9 months away, meant that I supported anything that would help Kathryn.
Sofie, came round to our house to deliver the sessions, which started with a catch up and certainly lots of tea. It was always very friendly, relaxed, and without pressure or scrutiny. One of Sofie’s particular talents is that within 20 minutes of meeting her, you feel like you are with a friend you have known for a long time, and this lends itself to a calm and open atmosphere. Very quickly we became very comfortable speaking openly and freely.
What was striking is that the sessions gave us information that made us feel a lot more in control. We spoke about the labour in detail and begun to understand the process much more. We covered the good and the bad which contributed to a shared preparedness between myself and my wife. At different times, we would have different roles to play, but studying birth in this informal way meant we could begin to plan and plot out in our minds how we wanted to approach it, and also how we would approach difficulties also, if they were to arise.
The labour came, and after two days, came to its natural conclusion with the arrival of Frederick. Even at its most intense, we were able to maintain a positive frame of mind. Using the techniques we had used, the visualisations, and breathing my wife was able to better deal with the contractions and comprehend the pain in a different way. She got through the birth having only two paracetamols!
I am an absolute advocate of hynobirthing and an indebted supporter of Sofie! What Sofie taught us was truly valuable and helped us beyond words. Her reassurance, gave my wife an incredible confidence and contentedness that provided the perfect frame of mind to approach the birth. I have since talked to several friends who are fast approaching their own due dates, and every time my ‘top tip’ to them has been, ‘do a hypnobirthing course! Ben, Daddy to Freddie
I can honestly say it was an amazing birth experience!
I am convinced that my state of mind and confidence from the hypnobirthing sessions helped me enormously, she was a joy to deliver, it all went so fast I just didn’t have time to think about it. It was intense but I was just so pleased at the time about how quickly it was progressing and I think the reason it progressed so well was down to my mental state and the confidence I had in my body’s ability to deliver her.
Thank you so much Sofie I think Jim & I both learnt & benefitted so much from what we learnt with you, it was much more of a team effort this time around especially in the few weeks before the birth, Jim gave me so much space & kept my zone very stress free, I think this support helped so much to get me into the best frame of mind. Thank you so much again for your help at this very special time! Anna, Mummy to Minnie
Hypnobirthing was the best drug I could have been armed with!
Our beautiful baby girl is here! Labour was a genuinely amazing and wonderful experience and I have NO DOUBT it wouldn't have been so great without all of Sofie's wisdom and positivity that she passed onto us during our pregnancy. I went in 100% relaxed, without a shadow of fear or trepidation. I was able to relax and enjoy the miracle of what my body was doing.
All in all, an INCREDIBLE experience which would never have been so incredible without Sofie. Sofie has an amazing gift in what she does - she is so empowering and honest, it was the best drug I could have been armed with. Chloe & Chris, Mummy and Daddy to Imogen
The birth of our baby was peaceful, quick and calm
When I first heard about hypnobirthing I have to admit I was dubious. However, we were determined not to go through another traumatic birth and so were both willing to give it a go!
Sofie was amazing and the hypnobirthing techniques and philosophies that she taught us honestly changed our lives for the better. The birth of our baby was peaceful, quick and calm and people often comment on what a calm baby he is as a result.
Sarah, Mummy to Keir
A calm c-section using Hypnobirthing
Sofie was influential in my entire pregnancy, in teaching new skills of relaxation and the biology of my body through birth. We planned a hypnobirth home birth, and after the course with Sofie we went from feeling anxious to excited about the birth, practicing all the techniques she gave us.
Sofie has a calming and caring nature, she's very passionate about what she does, we felt really at ease and enjoyed every session. My plans suddenly changed when I was booked for a c section at week 38. I was incredibly upset that I no longer could have the home birth I'd wished for.
Even though I had completed the course with Sofie, she was on-hand to give me extra support; she helped me through this difficult time, and I feel that she went the extra mile. Sofie showed how I can still use hypnobirthing techniques through my c section - it definitely helped keep me calm and I had a very healthy baby boy! I have recommended Sofie to my friends and will continue to, she's the best!
Jules, Mummy to Zach
An empowering home birth
I was almost two weeks overdue and was being badgered for monitoring and induction but I trusted my body and my instinct and on the morning I was going to go in for monitoring at exactly 42 weeks my surges started at 4:30am. I practiced my hypnobirthing, had my doula come over and all was well. Surges picked up at about 8am and I got into the birthing pool and just used my breath to ride through the surges. I felt a pressure and my waters went in the water (my plug only went moments before this) and then my body wanted to start pushing. My doula kept telling me to trust my body so I did and it was amazing. It didn’t hurt it was just incredible. Once her head was out she pooped inside but they weren’t worried about that. She was a big baby so midwife wanted me to stand up with my leg on the pool to give her a little more space once her head was out and out she slipped at 9:29am. She was 9lb 11oz and no tear at all and apart from looking a little pale I was absolutely fine. Our bodies are incredible and it was the most wonderful experience as my first birth was a hospital birth with an epidural. You can do it ladies and when you do you will feel amazing! Welcome to our world Martha Lily Ettie Fisher.
My husband and I decided to have a homebirth and try out Hypnobirthing for our first baby. After searching online we found Sofie's website and decided to take the course with her. From the first welcome into Sofie's home for the course we felt at ease. Sofie is a very warm and open person. This was very important at a time where everything was new and there were so many decisions to make. Sofie went through any questions with good depth of knowledge and a calm manner - this in turn gave us much confidence about our chosen birth plan. We can highly recommend Sofie's hypnobirthing course to all Mums and Dads to be. K, Mummy to H
Hypbobirthing was a total game changer for both my pregnancy & labour. It kept me positive throughout both. I felt so very strong and capable. We are so thankful to have stumbled across Sofie who was a wonderful bright light of a guide to us. Sofie offers a safe & tranquil space in which to discuss hopes & fears, a well structured course with a great balance of information, anecdotes & practise and a healthy measure of humour too! I felt so well informed and prepared for what was to come! Thank you Sofie! Léa, Mummy to Anou
At first I thought only hippies contemplate Hypnobirthing, but it is so, so much more powerful and valuable than first perceived. Hypnobirthing provides you with the science of what your body will do, as well as the tools to deal with it. It teaches you a lifelong ability to calm yourself down and most importantly the confidence to handle and keep control of your mind while your body takes over. Sofie is a really fantastic teacher, she has lots of knowledge, a lovely voice and makes you feel very realxed and calm. I had my perfect birth because of Hypnobirthing. I wish with all my heart that all women could experience what I did. Minty, Mummy to Franka
It was a wonderful experience that reinstated the powerfulness of our minds and bodies. Hypnobirthing taught me to have trust and confidence in my body. When William was born he was so calm, peaceful, just like how he was brought into the world.
Stephanie, Mummy to William
The Hypnobirthing exercises of visualisation, relaxation and breathing were invaluable to me during my whole pregnancy. After 2 miscarriages I had natural worries of my body’s ability to carry my baby. But I found that the Hypnobirthing philosophy gave me the confidence and the techniques to trust my body and truly be in touch with my intuition, helping me to stay calm, healthy and anxiety free throughout. Sofie’s positive birth experience with her daughter gave me the confidence to believe in both the Hypnobirthing methods and myself. When I finally went in to labour, all the techniques I had been practicing came in to play. I was incredibly calm and in control throughout my long labour. My son was born calm, drug free and alert. I think that Hypnobirthing is just realigning women to what we already know deep down inside: That we too, like other species, have the ability to give birth without fear and all that fear brings. I hope all pregnant women can one day know that. I’m so glad that it is Sofie who has decided to teach it! Samreen, Mummy to Solomon